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Friday, November 13, 2009

I received this email from one of my friend

I was reading it while in lesson

Felt so much like tearing after reading it ):

A story worth sharing

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking
care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have,
as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional
needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I
had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that
there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after
informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am
home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So
with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the
room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention
of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken
porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the
source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess
on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a
good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short
explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were
not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I
remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any
adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from
the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under
the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you
'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't
want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried
with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went
towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him,
while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the
bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's
room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little
buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to
focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to
most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating
from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting
impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,
his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to
explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling
out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily
playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell
out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But
after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by
his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten
has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to
himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure,
would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud
too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's
winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in
every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my
son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's
work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was
also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to
post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise
never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that
this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he
apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I
pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the
letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on
his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to
ask him: " But why did you post so many letters, at one time?" My son's
reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I
reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able
to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I
could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to
say....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if
you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach
mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon
after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters
on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the
letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the
school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did
not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was
afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went
around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of
the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was
furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell
him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he
think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we
both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my
dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you
fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see
the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace
the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

dont't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some
kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.
Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to
the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take
care of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even
business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally
dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this
society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little
precious and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other
things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. dont't let
your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more
than your well being.

.TICKING BOMB.1:37 PM.

DREAD OF SCHOOL

Monday, November 9, 2009

I just realized

My last post was on 27th Nov!

Clear indication that my blog is rotting away!

And i'm in Econs lessons now

Because the prof has this sleep inducing voice,

I'm blogging

While my fiend is like skyping!

How good that prof is!

Recall:

Last Sat,(Halloween)

Met Sherlyn & Ivy at Bugis for dinner and some last minute Halloween shopping.

Ivy's boyfriend joined us for dinner.

After we were done,

Sherlyn drove us down to REBEL!

Guess what we dressed up as?

Sherlyn supposed to be policewoman but look like sex manic

Ivy - she is uncertain too, but i guess she's like a white fairy masque

W.F-magician

AND

ME- deadly cheer leader

There were like tons of people

Had fun with the babes though!

LOVES*

Nothing much for last week then.

Went to find the FATTY for lunch at RP last Tuesday!

Then we studied and did our work

But that fatty BOM BOM was so distracted!

PIG!LOLS!

And AND!

Congratulations FATTY BOM BOM for scoring ZERO 0 points in your TP!

Really happy for you!

Finally, you get to ride and enjoy (:

On friday

Fatty Bom Bom took off for me!

He didn't go to work!

We were suppose to go prawning with his friends

But in the end

Changed of plans

We headed to Top one kbox or singing session @ BUGIS (Whatever you call that), with his friends

The session was pretty okay

And i just realized my Chinese is getting screwed.

It's getting worst each day!

Last friday was a bad day as well... cos Fatty......

Nah!

Will not mentioned or bring it up again*

SEALED*

And it was REBEL on sat again.

Well

This week is last week for this semester

Exams are round the corner

No more partying

It's just study study study!

ARG!

And BOSS BIDDING SHUCKS!

I can't get the modules with that particularly prof that I WANT!

.TICKING BOMB.1:39 PM.

FATTY BOM BOM

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Last weeks events:

Firstly!

Happy 2^nd month SWEETHEART!

Really glad to have you by my side.

I LOVE YOU FATTY BOM BOM!

I sewed this small little heart for him and made a card with macaroni alphabet.

While guess what did that FATTY BOM BOM did for me?

He baked cookies for me!

And seriously, the cookies were awesome!

I’m not exaggerating or anything

But the cookies tasted so yummy just like those selling @ famous AMOS!

Rate:4.5/5

Lols!

Thanks fatty BOM BOM!

We decided to head to Geylang for FROG PORRDIGE & crab!

I drove and we got lost again as usual):

Had to call alfred for directions!

And parking lots were like limited.

The food was GOOD!

We headed to the G7 stall.

Rate: 4/5

Anyway,

Sorry FATTY BOM BOM for the stuffs that I said!

Once again, really enjoyed your companion!

It was then school, projects, meetings for the rest of the week.

I DREAD school, I REALLY DO! ARG! Hate university life

No parties last week):

Saturday

I drove the car and actually helped my dad to queue up at SHELL STATION

They had this promotion.

Dad didn’t had the patience to queue and would rather pay the normal price if he has to queue.

And so, HE ASKED ME TO QUEUE!

How smart!

There were like goodness, so many cars queuing

I had to wait like 35 mins before I could see the SHELL station

And had wait for like 50-60 minutes before petrol was feed into the car.

There was this UNCLE who cut queue

Not my queue though, but the car behind me!

Can you imagine those people queuing up for like one hour and that uncle just needed to cut queue and soon was his turn?

And he acted BLUR.

So what if he's a UNCLE?

Does that gives him the RIGHT?

So crappy please!

Met ALVIN ONG (durian) for dinner on that day as well

I was craving for pasta mania pasta.

Weird but no idea man!

We headed to Cini- pasta mania

As usual,

We had our norms

Played the basketball game @ the arcade

I’m lagging man!

So Lagging!

ARG!

We had desert @ Herren after dinner.

And I can never forget the laptop story!

Damn funny!

Sunday

Headed to sweetheart’s place

Before that we had ice-cream.

I’m having ice-cream like almost every week

So dead!

I'm gaining WEIGHT!

Till now,

I’m nervous and scared when I see his parents.

And after such a long time

I finally had home cooked food for dinner.

His mum cooked

The food was really nice.

Come to think of it,

When are you going to cook for me, ANDREWLEEWEIJIE- FATTY BOMBOM! (:???

Lols!

Monday

Had lessons as usual

Dumbest thing that can ever happen man!

I was suppose to wake up @ 9.50am

But i set my alarm at 10.50am the night before.

It's all my sis's fault.

She was such a distraction man!

Again,

Irritating me as usual.

She's like a 12 years old kid instead of 21 man!

Met sweetheart and we headed to Cathay

We had ASTONS for dinner!

Once again,

Craving for pasta!

And we went to watch the movie : THE BLUE MANSION

Rate:3/5

A pretty decent film

Expected it to be much better though

And here I'm @ coffee bean

Studying with JO TEH!

And she was NICE ENOUGH for the very first time to treat me COFFEE BEAN DRINK.

And

She's really.......

MAD!

She's like so eager to collect the MCDONALD'S monopoly game!

MADDNESS!

so if you guys have the monopoly's game label:

JOO CHIAT Road

SHENTON WAY

SCOTTS ROAD

SENTOSA COVE.

Let me know man! THANKS!

And pictures to be uploaded soon!

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Now playing: Insomnia
via FoxyTunes

.TICKING BOMB.5:09 PM.

ADORABLE TODDLER

Monday, October 19, 2009

CHECK THIS OUT MAN!

FUTURE TALENT

.TICKING BOMB.10:16 PM.

PHOTOS TAKEN WAY BACK

1) 3 days- FLYERS DISTRIBUTOR FOR CITIGEMS

2) WEISHENG (JIEMUI'S 22nd BIRTHDAY)-taken from jiemui's blog

3) JO TEH'S 22nd BIRTHDAY

4) After the birthday party, JOLYN, WEISHENG, PEARLYNN, JOEL, ANDREW & I , we headed to this pub.

Sweetheart is as RED as a CRAB

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Now playing: AEROSMITH - I DON'T WANT TO MISS A THING
via FoxyTunes

.TICKING BOMB.8:56 PM.

Check these really hilarious stuffs out!

Asian Avril Lavigne

Initially, i thought he was singing / chanting the Buddhist chant. lols!

MUST WATCH!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OUyD_Hu4mk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFwnnwdtLyg

2007-MARY

ENJOY!

I couldn't stop laughing!

GOodness!

.TICKING BOMB.12:15 AM.

COUPLE OF EVENTS

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Time now is 4.10am

I'm tired yet can't really get to sleep.

And

It had been a while since i last blogged.

Once again,

I don't know how to go about starting ?

Well

Attended Jo Teh's birthday party last sat.

It was her 21st birthday!

And I told her " it's your 21st, not 12th"

Cos she's always ACTING CUTE

Lols!

Blessed 21st BIRTHDAY !

Hope you enjoyed yourself!

Before we headed for the party

Sweetheart , Jon Teh & I went to buy JO TEH's GIFT

We bought her a quilt/ comforter since she wanted a new one.

Drove both of them down to Costa Sand (Pasir Ris) .

Weisheng (Jm) and Jolyn came after that

After the party

The four of us,

We headed to this pub along Dhoby Ghaut area

Met up with Joel & Pearlynn as well.

It was totally weird

Cos sweetheart & I both don't sing Chinese songs.

I can't really remember when we watched this movie

But it was pretty good

It was SORORITY ROW

Rate: 3.5/5

If anyone of you loves shocks, thrills, YOu should really go catch this movie

Again,

I can't remember when.

A group of us just went to chill and catch the movie : 500 days of Summer

Rate:3/5

Peeps who were there were mostly sweetheart's colleagues.

And know what?

I was shocked & surprised to see SUE ( know her as suthashini when we were in primary school)

My really long , almost forgotten primary school friend.

It's been like 7 years back since I last seen her.

We were talking and asking about our primary school friends and stuffs

And in the midst of our conversation, we realized

MAN!

Everyone CHANGED

Some even changed drastically.

It was a good outing (:

Mid terms are finally over !

But still quiz and projects are piling up.

ARG!

On Thursday

Met sweetheart after school

Despite the unpleasant & awkward moment for a short period of time

I'm just glad things are fine NOW!

SAY YES! (:

LOLS!

We caught the movie " PANDORUM"

Rate:2.5/5

It was not as fantastic as what we expected.

FRIDAY

Met sheu for dinner

That sheu was bugging me

He was craving for pasta, pasta ,pasta

And it was getting late.

Cos i'm late as usual!

Lols!

We headed to Central WARAKU for dinner.

Ivy & her boyfriend came along.

We then headed to Rebel to meet Sherlyn & friends.

HAPPY 20th BIRTHDAY BABE!

And that's when i just realized

I have known sherlyn,Ivy sheu,shimin for like ONE YEAR!

And yes,

some people really changed ):

Still

Remembering vividly

what happened @ your birthday party @ double o Last year,

Lols!

Anyway,

Hope you enjoyed yourself!

*I SAW ALVIN ONG! DURIAN! LOLS!

Never expected to bump into him in the same club.

*what surprises me more was MARQUE LOW! It was really great seeing him once again after what

all had happened!

He's as usual, and getting skinner!!

Alvin & I were suppose to have breakfast @ Sun plaza Mac

But know what?

We were like so "LUCKY"

The deep-fryer for the hashbrown machines were down & only egg muffins & hotcakes were available

While i was craving for SAUSAGE MUFFIN WITH EGG!

Totally crappy!

So we decided to have cup noodles instead (:

Thanks for sending me home dude!

And remember what i said

"Don't give up unless you don't even see the slightest hope"

" AND BELIEVE, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF"

You're really capable, TRUST ME!

SATURDAY

Being obedient

I was home the whole day

Until dinner

Went out for dinner with my family

We had dinner @ Tampines because both DAD & MUM wanted to try the food there

Every week

They are like both watching the TV variety show that recommend places with good food.

We all rated it 3/5 while my dad rated it 4/5

I didn't really like the food there though

Wanted to give it a rating of even 2/5

Sweetheart's @ work once again

* there had been unpleasant stuffs going for the week for so between friends

Well,

Know what is basic courtesy?

If you don't?

Check it out in the dictionary.

Thanks!

.TICKING BOMB.1:31 AM.